Valentines Day is around the corner and even though I believe there shouldn’t be an ordained day to celebrate love, if you know me well enough you would know that I just need an excuse, any reason to celebrate. I am a hopeless romantic who believes in fairy tales and happy endings. And why not, in a world of doom and gloom, you need people like me to keep romance and hope alive.
I have been with my hubby for nearly 10 years now and I still blush and have goosebumps when he sweeps me of my feet or catches me with some other surprise.
Now don’t get me wrong, even though I am a hopeless romantic, Rohit is the tails end to that rope. Two people of the same star sign couldn’t be more different in terms of personality. He still manages to surprise me every once in a while and I guess that’s what makes it even more special.
Many a times conversations amongst ladies revolve around how other husbands are doing so much for their wives. The grass is always greener on the other side. Having been in a relationship for this long, having had tonnes of friends and seeing so many couples and their life/love stories, when one starts looking into other people's lives or starts comparing relationships unhappiness creeps in. Someone else’s boyfriend will always be more romantic. Someone else’s husband will probably always show more affection in public and so what? The truth is, you will never be happier with another person. I am a firm believer in destiny. I believe you are with your partner for a reason. You had the freedom to fall in love with anyone, but you fell in love with that one, or fate decided to bring the two of you together. You both happened to be there at the right time and the right place. You chose your partner for a reason. Cherish what you have and be grateful for the little things you share with your partner, whether it’s a sweet moment to remember or material gift shared. Always ponder on the fact that someone else will be looking into your life and thinking – wish I had what she had.
On that note, don’t you think its ridiculous, obnoxious, preposterous that on a day that couples would like to go out for a meal, where parents hire babysitters to have that alone time, most restaurants jack up the prices like no one else’s business. It’s a shame but it is what it is. Every industry runs based on consumer demand and nothing like the much hyped Valentines Day. Over the years I've tried to crack the creative side of my brain and come up with various gestures to show Rohit how much I loved him. Here are some of my ideas or tips on what you could do for your partner without breaking your bank account.
1. Champagne and flowers
Agreed champagne is expensive but its still cheaper than going to a fancy restaurant. You could opt for a cheaper bottle of sparkling wine maybe or you can still go cheaper with a candle lit home cooked meal. Nothing spells out ‘I love you’ more than a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of bubbly. (Yes, I do believe you can give flowers to men.) Maybe one rose for a guy as opposed to a bouquet of roses for a girl. You could decorate your dinner table or your bedroom with roses. This bouquet of flowers was given to me by my hubby. The view was an additional bonus.
2. Love Box
Years ago when wondering what to give Rohit on Valentines Day, I found this pretty little box which was perfect. It was not too corny neither was it too dull. It was perfect. I decided to cut chits of paper and hand wrote the various aspects, attributes, traits that made me fall in love and still keeps me in love with him.When I gave him the box, I told him everytime he felt angry or upset with me, that he should pull out one of those pieces of papers and read as to what it was about him that made me gaa gaa over him. Wouldn’t it be nice time and again to read what your partner actually loves about you? What was in you that made him/her choose you over the billion others in the world.
3. Valentines Day cake or cupcakes
They say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. You will be worshipped as God on earth if as a man you made a cake or cupcakes for your woman. Ladies men would be quite pleased too with some sweet love (cake kinda love). I love baking and so look for any excuse to bake. I had made these for one of the past Valentines Day.
4. Date Jar
Yes you heard that right. Nope it’s not a type of dessert rather a simple jar that I filled with random simple ideas of inexpensive ‘dates’ with my hubby. We are parents yet it doesn’t reduce the fact that we are a couple first. It is very easy to please someone spending a lot of money. It requires a lot of thought and dedication to sit and come up with ideas for moments you could share with your better half.
We haven't been through the whole jar, not even half of it. Its exciting to read these slips once in a while and see what else you can do with your partner.
5. Picnic at the park or beach
Instead of going for a fancy meal, you could pack a lunch box or a picnic hamper and have a meal whether its lunch or dinner at a park or a beach. In today’s day and age, these are simple things taken for granted yet however having had a picnic, there is nothing more romantic than sharing some time alone with your partner in the outdoors. (Not the best pic, but a selfie clicked by us while out on one such date).
Hope some of these ideas will help you come with one or two of your own to do something extra special for your partner this Valentines Day.